I don’t think you can ever know someone too well. If they are good people then the better you know them, the more you can enjoy them. If they are sucky people, then the better you know them, the better you can avoid their suckiness. And most of the times that I have disliked someone, I have learned to like them by getting to know them better. People who seem snobby may just be shy. Those who are abrasive at first may have a soft side. You could miss out on getting to know some great people by not giving them a chance. And upon closer inspection, people who seem to have infuriatingly perfect lives, don’t.
I often wish I knew people better and that they knew me better. Maybe that’s why I blog, so people can get to know me. It always makes me happy to make new friends and have people who actually seem to enjoy my company and invite me to do things with them. The more you know someone, assuming they fall into the “good people” category, then the closer you will be. And closeness is a great thing to have. Close friends can lift you up when you are down, and when you are already up they can lift you even higher. It’s even good to get to know people who are annoying because the better you get to know them, the better you will be able to appreciate their positive attributes. And hey, if they bug you, you can always avoid them. It’s never a negative thing to have a friend, again, as long as they are the lifting-up type. If they are the type of person that always complains or brings you down, then they’re not worthy of being a close friend. They are a burden, and it’s OK to take good care of yourself and try not to be around that person.
On a similar note, I don’t think one can ever have too many friends. In fact, you can never have ENOUGH friends. I’m not saying that you should be friends with anybody and everybody. But if someone is enjoyable to be around and the feeling is mutual, why would you want to limit that? Are you going to say, “No, I’m sorry, I can only have X number of friends and you didn’t make the cut, no matter how much I like you”? The more friends you have the more enjoyment you can get out of life. If one friend is busy, another friend may be available for a chat or a get together. And having mutual friends is a bonus because you can get together and have a party! Even if you are the type of person who likes privacy and alone time, it’s still nice to have friends that honor that, but are still there for you when you need them.
I wish I had more close friends. Not because I lack friends or don’t like the ones that I have, but because I can always use more people to help build me up and help me feel closeness. I can understand people being hesitant to make new friends, you always run the risk that your newfound friend will turn out to be a jerk and end up hurting you. But out of all the friends you make, the majority of them will be decent people and the few who make it to “close friend” status make it worth the risk.
My closest friends are people who love me even though I’m not perfect, still like me when we don’t agree, forgive me when I’m in the wrong, and appreciate what I have to offer. And that’s worth enduring the times I’ve had friends who’ve disappointed me. Don’t ever underestimate the power of friendship. It can be one of the most important things in your life.