3-day widow

Hubby is gone this weekend.  It’s a three-day weekend and he went to Utah to go snowboarding with his brothers and friends.  They’re having a total blast.  This is the first time they’ve done something like this and I think they should do it regularly, he totally deserves it.  He works long hours at work, goes to extra meetings for work and church, does a lot of volunteer work with/for the youth at church, teaches Sunday School, and lets me get away for a night out EVERY TUESDAY NIGHT.  Yup, he’s amazing!  So he definitely needs this vacation.

That being said…it’s killing me!  Sure I miss him, but leaving me alone with 4 kids for 3 whole days?!  It’s a complete disaster.  Now I know what you military wives/single moms are thinking.  I just have to say that you are better women than I and there is a special place in Heaven for you because I could NEVER do what you do every single day.  I mean, I haven’t cooked a single meal since he’s been gone.  Friday after we dropped him off at the airport I picked up Burger King.  Saturday we had cereal/week-old waffles.  Sunday we had taco leftovers.  Today he’s coming home late and I’ll probably have to actually make something (dang it).

In addition to my inability to cook regular meals for my family, the condition of my home has completely gone to pot.  I haven’t done laundry or dishes or anything.  I have made the boys clean up a little, though.  But today is the day I clean up and get things ready for Hubby to come home.  I don’t want him to have to clean when he gets home at 11:30 at night.  And if it’s dirty he totally will.

I’ve realized this weekend that I am completely incompetent on my own.  I always need someone around to motivate me to do anything.  Sunday I decided I was too tired to shovel the driveway (no, we don’t have a snow blower yet) and so we didn’t go to church.  Luckily, church was cancelled anyway because of an accident blocking the road.  So what did I do all through the Sabbath day?  I slept.  I literally slept for most of the day only waking up in 10 minute increments to get the kids food every once in awhile.  I pretty much slept from 10:30 p.m. on Saturday until 4:30 p.m. on Sunday.  and that whole time the kids either watched movies, played video games, or ran around like maniacs.  But like I said, today will be different.  It already is different.  I woke up and took a shower.  Of course the only reason I did that was because I was babysitting for a friend this morning.

Since I didn’t shovel yesterday, I have to do it today just to get out of the driveway to pick up Hubby.  I am not looking forward to shoveling the entire driveway all by myself.  But I’m only going to extract my own car from the snow, Hubby can do his own car early tomorrow morning before he goes to work.  Poor guy.  But I am NOT taking that bullet.

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  1. As one of those military wives, let me be the first to say that we don’t have it all figured out either. lol. My kids think that if I make mac and cheese and baked nuggets that its “Yay! Mommy cooked tonight!” We do a lot of trades with other wives, as in “you cook one night and I will cook the next.” There are the occasional cereal for dinner nights, and many many PB&J sandwiches. And Nick Jr. is our best friend. lol. It doesn’t matter if it’s 3 days or a year. It’s hard to hold down the fort without your partner! But I think it is great of you to let him have a guys weekend away. We all need those, and he will come back refreshed and feeling so blessed that he has such an awesome wife.


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