I have decided to enter the Mormon Mommy blogosphere (or bloggernacle as some might call it). I am not famous or popular or exceptional in any way (aside from the fact that I’m a daughter of God). I have no special talents of any kind. My only talents are either “hidden talents,” like my propensity to see the good in people; talents that are best to remain hidden, like my ability to eat 5 Entenmann’s doughnuts and half a quart of mint n’ chip ice cream in one sitting; or just things that I enjoy doing, but that most people do better than me, like blogging (haha!), reading, writing, photography, dancing, running, scrapbooking, putting photos to music, cross stitching, crocheting, and playing basketball.
So why blog? It all started when a friend of mine on Facebook shared a link to this article:
It was an interesting article, I had no idea anyone besides their own friends were reading Mormon Housewife blogs at all. But when she started describing the Gap commercial type of families and speculating that they might be hiding some dark inner life, I was a little irked. And I got more irritated with the statement that “Utah is, after all, the state with the highest rate of prescription antidepressant use, a statistic the president of the Utah Psychiatric Association attributes to the pressure among Mormon women to be ideal wives and mothers.” I HAPPEN to be a Mormon and I HAPPEN to have a family history of chemical imbalance resulting for me in Generalized Anxiety Disorder, intermittent depression, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder for which I take 4 different medications. If this occurs more in Mormon women than in other demographic groups it could be because the average person can have a glass of wine or a cigarette to calm down or a cup of coffee to perk them up. Who knows how many people have undiagnosed mental illnesses because they have other ways of coping with their issues that an LDS woman simply doesn’t have. My paternal grandfather was an alcoholic. Was he depressed? We don’t know, he had only two moods, drunk and sober. These issues have little or nothing to do with the “pressures” put on us by our religion.
On the contrary. If it looks like an LDS household has it all together it might be because our religion is uplifting, encouraging, soul soothing, and makes us want to be the best we can be. I know I have it more “together” than some and scripture reading, prayer, and the support of other women has made that happen for me. On the other hand, I have it WAY less “together” than many. My myriad of weaknesses make sure of that.
But for the average LDS woman, our homes get messy, our kids throw fits, we disagree with our husbands, we have leftovers for dinner (or cold cereal), and we get down on ourselves. I’d be lying if I said I love every minute of it. But my choice to get married at 18 (which is by no means a mormon “average”), have kids while in college, stay home with our 4 children and plan on having more babies has made me a happy and fulfilled individual. And I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Now I’ll wrap this thing up so I can run and get my toddlers into some kind of clothing and pick up my boys from school before they end up waiting in the office again for their late mother. I am hoping that this will be the first of many blog posts relating to whoever wants to read it (if it’s only me, that’s OK) my thoughts, my feelings, my pet peeves, anecdotes, and musings from a very mediocre Mormon mommy.