Musings of a Mediocre Mormon Mommy

I have decided to enter the Mormon Mommy blogosphere (or bloggernacle as some might call it).  I am not famous or popular or exceptional in any way (aside from the fact that I’m a daughter of God).  I have no special talents of any kind. My only talents are either “hidden talents,” like my propensity to see the good in people; talents that are best to remain hidden, like my ability to eat 5 Entenmann’s doughnuts and half a quart of mint n’ chip ice cream in one sitting; or just things that I enjoy doing, but that most people do better than me, like blogging (haha!), reading, writing, photography, dancing, running, scrapbooking, putting photos to music, cross stitching, crocheting, and playing basketball.

So why blog?  It all started when a friend of mine on Facebook shared a link to this article:

“Why I can’t stop reading Mormon housewife blogs: I’m a young, feminist atheist who can’t bake a cupcake. Why am I addicted to the shiny, happy lives of these women?”

It was an interesting article, I had no idea anyone besides their own friends were reading Mormon Housewife blogs at all.  But when she started describing the Gap commercial type of families and speculating that they might be hiding some dark inner life, I was a little irked.  And I got more irritated with the statement that “Utah is, after all, the state with the highest rate of prescription antidepressant use, a statistic the president of the Utah Psychiatric Association attributes to the pressure among Mormon women to be ideal wives and mothers.” I HAPPEN to be a Mormon and I HAPPEN to have a family history of chemical imbalance resulting for me in Generalized Anxiety Disorder, intermittent depression, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder for which I take 4 different medications.  If this occurs more in Mormon women than in other demographic groups it could be because the average person can have a glass of wine or a cigarette to calm down or a cup of coffee to perk them up. Who knows how many people have undiagnosed mental illnesses because they have other ways of coping with their issues that an LDS woman simply doesn’t have. My paternal grandfather was an alcoholic.  Was he depressed? We don’t know, he had only two moods, drunk and sober.  These issues have little or nothing to do with the “pressures” put on us by our religion.

On the contrary. If it looks like an LDS household has it all together it might be because our religion is uplifting, encouraging, soul soothing, and makes us want to be the best we can be.  I know I have it more “together” than some and scripture reading, prayer, and the support of other women has made that happen for me.  On the other hand, I have it WAY less “together” than many.  My myriad of weaknesses make sure of that.

But for the average LDS woman, our homes get messy, our kids throw fits, we disagree with our husbands, we have leftovers for dinner (or cold cereal), and we get down on ourselves.  I’d be lying if I said I love every minute of it.  But my choice to get married at 18 (which is by no means a mormon “average”), have kids while in college, stay home with our 4 children and plan on having more babies has made me a happy and fulfilled individual.  And I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Now I’ll wrap this thing up so I can run and get my toddlers into some kind of clothing and pick up my boys from school before they end up waiting in the office again for their late mother.  I am hoping that this will be the first of many blog posts relating to whoever wants to read it (if it’s only me, that’s OK) my thoughts, my feelings, my pet peeves, anecdotes, and musings from  a very mediocre Mormon mommy.

0 thoughts on “Musings of a Mediocre Mormon Mommy

  1. Mediocre my foot. Having the faith to get married at 18 because you found the love of your life takes great faith. You looked up and moved forward. To continue and finish your schooling while your husband did the same, again great faith. To be married so young, go to school and have two children all at the same time, now that is a miracle. Mediocre? Having to deal with the ups and downs of life with a husband and four kids is hard enough. Throw into that mix mental illness and you have yourself another miracle. Then add a busy husband with a busy stake calling and a ward calling, girl you are one walking miracle! I would change your title to, One Miraculous Mormon Mommy. Nuf said.

  2. I think you’re plenty talented, Crystal. If talents only counted on a competition level, then I would be beat out of every one. There are lots of people who play the piano better than I do, and write better than I do, and bake cookies…well, maybe not the cookies. But still…a talent isn’t a talent if it’s better than someone else’s. It’s just a gift from God that gives us a natural aptitude toward something. When we develop it, it grows. Period. So the fact that you run is amazing to me, because I hhhhhhate it. Your photography is awesome. I love your down-to-earth writing. And you have a great sense of humor. So go ahead and strap on the “real” title–I love it–but I think you can throw away the “untalented” title.

    1. Julie, thank you so much, that means a lot coming from you because I totally admire you! You are so right about talents but it is sure hard to think of it that way! And I would love to taste your cookies!

  3. Thank you for your honesty. I have also wondered about the prescription drug/Utah correlation. Could it be that many Mormon women are trying to face their challenges and get help instead of self medicate? They want to get better, and so they look for solutions.

    Their responisbilites are so high that they can’t runaway from their problems.

  4. I can’t wait to read the rest of your blog, but if every post is as honest as this one, it will be great.

    I don’t see why people would contribute depression and or “mental illness” to a religion. Are we all not just humans? Don’t we all feel overwhelmed on a daily basis? For me just getting up in the morning, taking a shower, dressing myself and then my daughter and getting to work on time is a daily struggle.

    So come on! Get some blogging done!

  5. OK, I like it. Just letting you know that I did read your blog, and like it. I am a senior missionary in Arkansas currently, and love the humor you add to your “musings”. Keep it up. Someday you will possibly have a solid effect on those people we are attempting to teach out here in MISSIONsphere. My sweet companion will be able to relate to you very well, as she is just as humorous, and was raised to see the humor in most everything! She just doesn’t reply, nor write blogs. But I read the blogs to her for the pure enjoyment of it all!
    p.s. I accidentally ran across your blog as I was searching for something about boy scouts, imagine that!


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